sadiepickles:

“Don’t use your mental illness as an excuse” means “Change your behavior, apologize, and do better next time.” 

“Don’t use your mental illness as an excuse” DOES NOT mean “Your symptoms are your fault, your disorder is not even an explanation, and you are a bad person if you behave less than neurotypical”

cwote:

Everything will be okay.
Everything will be okay.
Everything will be okay.
Everything will be okay.
Everything will be okay.
Everything will be okay.
Everything will be okay.
Everything will be okay.
Everything will be okay.
Everything will be okay.
Everything will be okay.
Everything will be okay.
Everything will be okay.
Everything will be okay.
Everything will be okay.

tealesbian:

other people succeeding and achieving things (school, jobs, relationships, etc.) before you do, does not make you a failure. it doesn’t make you bad at these things. it just means some things are going to take a little more time for you than it will for other people. you have time. there are no rules or deadlines by which you have to achieve and experience things. there’s too much pressure to have all these things done by your early to mid twenties but you have your whole life to figure yourself out and do what you want. you are doing your best and that’s what matters. i’m proud of you and you are going to be okay.

lovelysuggestions:

On the days where you wake up past noon and you can’t get out of bed, when being awake hurts, and you feel like you’re held together by threds, remember that it’s going to be okay – but it dosnt have to be today. If you all you can do is get up, wash your face, and get something to eat, then that’s okay. now is not the time to push yourself too hard, it’s not sustainable. Getting better can be a slow process, just take it one step at a time.

lovelysuggestions:

The self-care guide for those of us who feel completely lost.

1. Keep makeup wipes next to your bed for those nights when you just want to crash, and can’t bring yourself to get up and wash your face.

2. Give yourself personal goals that will improve your mental and/or physical health. You can start small, and work up. Maybe try eating fruits with every meal? or stretching each morning? or fitting a fifteen minute walk in the sun every day (tip: big sunglasses can cover your face so you won’t even need to get ready, and you’ll look fly as hell with no effort at all)

3. Let your friends and family love and support you. There are people in your life who want to help, but maybe they just don’t know how. Tell them how you’re doing, a simple “I’m having a rough week, can you come over?” text is enough. Just being with someone, even just to watch a movie on the sofa with, can make your days a little easier. Isolation, even when it feels good, only makes things worse.

4. Make time for yourself, and the things you love. Make a point of spending 30 minutes every day for the things that make you happy. Maybe it’s drawing, or watching youtube, or taking a hot showers and blasting music, whatever it is, make time for it.

5. Allow yourself to feel your feelings. Don’t push off how you feel, letting it build up will only make it harder. If you feel like garbage, sit down and let it all out. If you’re having a tough morning, take things slow. Then, when the time comes, give yourself a little push to get going and keep you from wallowing. 

6. If you’re happy, let that shit shine! Don’t let the good moments get washed away, hold onto that feeling. Listen to your feel-good songs, dance around, maybe post about it. Make those moments into memories, especially when they feel few and far between.

7. Keep a list of good things. It might seem simple, but when something good happens write it down, and look back on it on the tough days. Maybe it’s something nice someone said, a joke you shared with a friend, someone holding the door open for you, or your dining hall had tater-tots. Every time you meet a goal you set for yourself, big or small, write that shit down! Kinda like before, keep track of the good things so you can prove to yourself they still exist when you feel like there is only bad.

8. 

You have unlimited phone-a-friends in real life, use them. Feel like everything is awful and you can’t do anything right? Days like these make the world seem dull, but your friends can give you a clear perspective and help ground you. Can’t get yourself out of bed to eat breakfast? Ask someone to bring you food. (Tip: You don’t have to feel guilty for asking someone to help you manage, everyone at some point in their life needs it!)

9. Keep a water bottle and healthy-ish snacks by your bed. Easy things, like veggie chips or dried fruit can help give you that boost to get out of bed, and even if it dosn’t, at least you’ll still be nourishing your body.

10. Structure your day. Especially if you’re in college, or you don’t have a 9-5 job. Sometimes the days can flow together, and it’s 7pm when you realize the day got away from you. Make a whole-ass schedule, and delegate times for studying, friends, work, chores, down time, etc. Not only will it help you manage anxiety because you’ll know when you’re going to do what, but it will help you feel more stable. (Tip: Be compassionate with yourself if you don’t stick to it exactly, rather than critical and self-depreciating. Take a deep breath, accept that you didn’t get all you wanted done, find another time to do it, and move on to the next thing)

sapphiac:

One of those “hard to swallow pills” as far as mental health advice goes is stopping negative self talk. I understand that making self deprecating jokes and and poking fun at the topic of depression can be a coping mechanism for some people, and it’s miles better than actually doing something self destructive, but it perpetuates a negative mindset. It doesn’t facilitate any progress to continue to constantly put yourself down, and joking about wanting to die propagates casual suicidal ideation.

I understand that I’m absolutely guilty of indulging in negative self talk. I don’t mean to sound hypocritical. It’s not terrible if you can’t find a way to stop your negative self talk, and you shouldn’t feel guilty about it, but it definitely inhibits any progress towards recovery you could be making, which isn’t ideal. I’m only saying that it’s something that people who struggle with mental health issues should be mindful of.

Please be kind to yourself. You don’t need to over-emphasize your negative traits to be funny or relatable. Sometimes it’s ok to just be.